Sperm Donor Told To Pay Child Support

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I've just read it and it's not yet too late...

Very scary thought for me at the moment, I've not had any more children of my own for the exact same reason this man said he and his wife haven't, I just can't afford it now. Anyway, it's definitely something I'm gonna have to ring my local CSA office about and mention to the couple who have approached me...

That aside, I guess legally there is no way for this to be avoided unless, as the CSA spokeswoman says in the article, the child is legally adopted. I found this out myself because a few years ago, when I was actually able to see my eldest son, his mother asked me to allow her husband to adopt my son so his name could legally be changed but I refused because I had been told this would end all rights and responsibilities I had to him

Scary thought this one... I'm glad I spotted it

 

I'm fighting with my ex-wife these days so forgive my slightly mysogynistic perspective, but it seems to me that these people made a deal. You know, as in a promise? The man agreed to donate some sperm to the lesbian couple. There does not seem to be any deceit on the part of the man (though there is evidence of first class stupidity) but the fact remains the woman asked him for something, told him that was ALL she wanted, and he did as he was asked. THEN. . . .

Like so many women, she broke her end of the promise. If anyone said to her "you made a deal knowing full well the ramifications and possibilities -- keep your end of the deal!" she'd just start crying and blame it all on those horrible, oppressive men. And once she's crying, the jig is up. God help the unfortunate man who wants to talk reason with one of these <edit -- wonderful females> when they play the gender card.

And our society often supports them in their lies and deceit, cheerfully telling them that nothing is ever their fault and never dreaming of actually placing consequences on them for their own decisions. The lesson to be learned here, gentlemen, is never trust a woman, even if you have legal documentation. The government will tear up any contract or deal to punish men if they forget this basic rule. Take it from someone who is currently being punished.

If a man were to break his end of a deal, the full force of society falls upon him, villifying him, labelling him with horrendous labels, and intruding into every aspect of his life. Is that fair? You bet it is! EVERYONE should be required to keep their promises and deals. What irks me is that women often aren't.

OK, that was a little harsh. I admit that. I'm a little frustrated right now is all, but my central idea that the entire playing field is TOTALLY slanted in favor of women is still a valid one, I believe.

 

i think the main thing to look at here is that the CSA are trying to enforce proper channels

 

That's all well and good but in a situation like this the input of the parents should definitely be taken into account, and due to personal experience the correct info is absolutely necessary, I recently had a phone call from CSA asking me if I was the father of an ex's new baby and would I be prepared to sign a Statutory Declaration to that end if so when they were clearly told that her current bloke was the father!

 

I'm confused here. Is there a law from the legislature explaining all this, or do the judges just make this stuff up. I suppose that, if there's no official document from the mother releasing the father from responability, things could get sticky, but I've heard on these boards of signed and legal contracts to that effect being thrown out by the judge. Is this a case of judicial discression going too far, or is it a case of established law superceding the intent of such a contract?

 

From what I've seen, it was only a verbal contract. As we all know (or end up learning the hard way), a verbal contract isn't even worth the paper it wasn't written on.

 

This court decision in Pennsylvania caught my attention this morning. Apparently when there is an agreement between the parties that child support will not be provided, it can't be claimed later. Maybe Aldazar should move here...

 

The CSA would never accept it, and the CSA always win.

My father had such an agreement in writing with my mother in return for the house, but in the end he was still forced to pay