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Fidelity in Relationships

Discussion in 'Alley of Dangerous Angles' started by Aldeth the Foppish Idiot, Mar 22, 2007.

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  1. chevalier

    chevalier Knight of Everfull Chalice ★ SPS Account Holder Veteran

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    Aldeth, we believe in forgiveness. Not in the freedom to say, "sorry, you've cheated on me, you're screwed and the relationship is over, your fault and your bad." In such a case as when someone doesn't even intend to be faithful, then the marriage will have been invalid from the beginning. Similarly, if someone is unable to be faithful regardless of wanting or intending that, then it's also invalid. Or if the person is too immature to know what's going on and what it is about, what the requirements and the consequences are. Cases of notorious cheaters will likely fall here. But if someone simply lapsed, no. That's grounds for separation but not for divorce and remarriage.

    And if someone doesn't want to accept the reality that his marriage was invalid from the beginning (even with the added premise that he was acting in good faith) but prefers to have the option to believe that his marriage was all valid until some choosen point in time... Well, religion or marriage or morality is not a fast food shop. It's not about having one's wishes of the most bizarre kinds fulfilled. ;)

    @Drew: First, it's not my business what you watch with your wife. Second, if you insist on my opinion, then I'll say it's wrong. Third, cheating is hard to do without an element of, well, cheating. Lying, deception and the like. But absent the elements of cheating, consent from both spouses doesn't make an "open marriage" right and neither does it make it right to engage together in an activity contrary to the nature of marriage, which includes sexual exclusivity.
     
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  2. Aldeth the Foppish Idiot

    Aldeth the Foppish Idiot Armed with My Mallet O' Thinking Veteran

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    The thing is, I don't consider it a bizarre wish. What if both people entered the marriage with the intention of being faithful, and yet, one of them cannot seem to remain faithful? They both entered with the best of intentions, but yet, one was unable to follow through on their vows?

    Okay, maybe my personal feelings on this issue are clounding my viewpoint. You see, my brother is currently going through a divorce. His wife cheated on him, he forgave her, and she rewarded his forgiveness by cheating on him again. So what's a guy to do in such a situation? What happens when you offer a second chance, and the second chance is squandered?
     
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