Relationship Rant Thread #4

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There is this girl. I tried to talk myself into that I only find her quite hot, but that's incorrect. I have a crush on her, seemingly, because I feel I get jealous when others come too close for my taste.

She keeps me at arms length. It sucks, and I will see her again.

 

Don't be discouraged Ragusa, maybe she's just intimidated (that happens) but if she's not into you at all then I'm afraid there's not much you can do.

 

Find another.

 

@Caradhras: You are right it's a bit disappointing, but better that than failing to have the courage to say what she feels and forcing herself to stay with you against her will and inclination.

@Ofelix: Yep, you have no right to judge and it would probably be the best (and maybe even the most fair) to assume the best intentions on her part. But it does look awful, I'll grant you that. You now know you don't really want anything with her.

@Iku-Turso: Honesty is good, very good, but bluntness doesn't always actually convey the whole truth. When it crosses the line and becomes brutal, it distorts the truth of what's between people, so it doesn't have even that value of a truthful message. Kindness is very important. Kindness without lying.

It does seem easier to get over someone if you get a couple of blunt messages, but sometimes bluntness is dictated by emotion and emotion is, well, emotion. There's a charge. If it's positive, it can go negative, if it's negative, it can go positive, while only really the power of the charge will be closer to constant. Well, just my opinion.

Sometimes it's also better to take your suffering and deal with it instead of having it easier. For example, if a girl were to cheat on you and get caught in order to get out of the relationship with you, would you prefer that to a more err... verbal break-up, which would be harder? There's the truth of certain bonds between people and when such bonds break, sadness is natural, as is suffering. Making it easy isn't always good. Sometimes it's just not worth it, or it's downright false.

@Rags: Get over her. Start tonight. Really. Maybe you're just tired of being single or she's got you in a moment of longing for a relationship, whatever. Happens to everyone. Don't act on it unless you feel something more than jealousy and attraction. Chances are if jealousy and attraction are the most noticeable factors, that they are the main factors in the whole thing anyway. You don't need a relationship based on attraction and jealousy. It brings misery.

 

And misery loves company.

 

We went out yesterday, and had a nice evening. Sort of. Indirectly but clearly, I was told that this isn't going to go anywhere beyond a 'just friends' sort of relationship Alas Still, better than continuing to chase a mirage

 

That's not that bad. At least you got to know where you stood pretty clearly. Note, however, that such "signs" are not always clear, or as clear as they seem. I've been mistaken at least once. Beware the "sort of". Sometimes it's neither friends nor a couple, a strange relationship. Don't need that.

 

Women are bigger dirtbags than men. It's so, so true. Men get the bad rep, but women are the true sly dogs. There is this girl I was 'sort of' seeing from work. I've not done anything with her yet (not really been in a situation where we could have sex yet, early stages). She seems really lovely and genuine, but today I was sat with her at her desk having a chat. One of her mates came up and asked her for a mint, and started rummaging through her bag. I shouldn't have been looking, but with a sly glance saw she was on the pill. She had some in her bag. I didn't say a word, and didn't show that I'd seen it, I just carried on as normal. It really pissed me off that did. I thought a lot of this lass and she's shown serious interest back, I really enjoy her company and think she's a cracking girl. Who's she sleeping with? I'll kill the bastard when I find out who it is .

Ah well, I'll go out tonight get slaughtered and see if I can trap, always makes you feel better!

 

Errrrm...that's a serious case of jumping to conclusions, Barmy. It can be for a number of reasons...medical, just being on the safe side in case she has sex...you're not miraculously protected with the first pill you take.

Pill=sex...that's very archaic of you.

 

LMAO

 

Well, maybe, I thought it was pretty safe to assume 'on contraceptive pill = having sex with somebody' though. I also know that someone isn't me! The bitch

 

lots of women stay on the pill cos its easier than starting it again everytime they have a sexual partner.

It also prevents facial hair growth, and stopping or starting the pill is often associated with weight loss or gain, so she might not want her weight yo yoing.

saying shes on the pill therefore shes having sex is like saying you carry condoms around you must be having sex.

or carrying head aches tablets around meaning you must constantly have a headache.

 

Yeah, what Proteus_za says.

It can also be for painful periods, against acne, heck, some girls take it so their breasts would grow. Over here, most girls over 18 are on the pill, just in case or for some of the reasons already mentioned. Does not mean they are having sex, though.

I thought this was generally known and all.

This reminds me of that That '70s Show Episode.

 

My housemate pretty much confirms that. And it doesen't automatically mean that because a woman takes the pill that this automatically makes her sexually active... hell, she takes it and sex-wise, it's been desertic for her for over five years, so Barmy, you're a little too quick to jump to the conclusions...

 

I've got friends who take it for the reasons Uytuun mentioned. It doesn't mean she's having sex with anybody.

 

I second that view.

 

If you have to take some medication on a regular basis it's probable that you would carry it with you.
It doesn't mean that you are planning to sleep out.

 

You work overtime?